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Babysitting Your Child

A nanny, a child minder, nursery… Every choice has its pros and cons.

6 mins to read By Danial Ahmad , Author Oct 15, 2015

A nanny, a child minder, nursery… Every choice has its pros and cons. Only you can decide which option best suits your child and your household. To help you choose, here are a few things to take into consideration:

Tips to discipline your child

Discipline is important to teach your child the appropriate behaviour, the difference between right and wrong, and instil family values in a loving, respectful way. This will make your future babysitting your child much easier.

Understand your child
Children are little people who have a limited vocabulary and ability to communicate. They are highly unpredictable and clumsy. An expression of excitement can sometimes turn into an accidental slap. They can be happy one minute and cranky the next. They are possessive and most times have no idea what is acceptable behaviour or not at this young age. All these can really test your patience as they push the boundaries when you babysit your child.

It will take time, patience and lots of love and understanding for your child to learn and respect your authority. While every child is unique in his or her own way and should be treated according to individual needs, here are some general tips on how to get started on disciplining your child.


Be clear about the rules. Set boundaries. Be sure your child understands what is right and what is not.

Be consistent. If a certain behaviour is not acceptable at a friend’s home or outside, it is also not acceptable at home. We know it can be tough but if we are not consistent, the child can get confused by what is really acceptable and not.

Be firm yet understanding. Once you have said “no”, don’t change your mind. Stick to your rule even when your child tries to bend the rule or change your mind about it. Even when you have someone else babysit your child, make sure they are aware of the rules. Take the time to explain why you said “no”.

Be gentle. Most times your child will respect your decision when you talk to them gently. It is usually not what you say but how you say it.

Be watchful. Always supervise your child so that they know you are watching their actions.

Be realistic. Remember, what is normal for an adult is not normal for a child. Be down-to-earth and set realistic boundaries or rules.

Be fair. Be specific about what the mistake is. Try not to generalize as this will confuse your child and de-motivate him or her. Be sure not to get personal, so criticize the mistake or bad behaviour but not your child.

Be patient. Don’t hit your child out of frustration because you can’t retract the action after you’ve done it. Just remember that most of the time, your child is just testing and learning and most of their mistakes are unconscious. Try counting to ten first!

Be in agreement. Each parent may have different parenting styles. Try to decide and agree on important and common rules and values that you want to instill in your child. This is to avoid confusing your child. Be supportive of your spouse’s discipline decisions even if you do not agree. Discuss conflicting issues in private so that the both of you can, as they say, agree to disagree.

Be creative. Make it fun for your child to follow the rules. Instead of just instructing your child to do something, turn it into a game instead. For example you may say you won’t tickle his toes until he cleans up. Be encouraging about cleaning up or having good manners.

Be an example. Your child simply loves to imitate you. So, be sure to set a good example and explain your actions even if they don’t understand why you are doing things a certain way. Actions speak louder than words.

Be a better listenerShow your child that he or she is important by listening. This builds confidence, fosters respect and gives assurance that you will be fair in your judgement.

Be encouraging. When you find your child being good, compliment him or her often or display affection like giving a hug. This positive reinforcement will boost self-esteem and motivate your child to be more positive about following the rules.

Be loving. It’s important for your child to feel loved and secure. Always give your child lots of hugs and kisses so that your child knows that you love him or her, even when you have to discipline him or her.


YES, it’s okay to say “NO”

Do you have trouble saying "NO" to your child? Well, if your child has more toys than he can play with, you're probably like most parents that find it hard to say "NO". But a good thing to know is the "NO" word when used correctly is as caring and loving as the "YES" word.

So here are a couple of reasons why saying “NO” will make a world of a difference to the positive upbringing of your little one.


Here are some rules to saying "NO"

  1. Say "NO" firmly but caringly.
  2. Explain why you’re saying "NO" so that your little one will learn that you are saying it for a good reason or to protect him. Perhaps you could reinforce your explanation with a simple caring statement to him "The reason we say YES or NO to you is because we love and care for you".
  3. Don’t say "NO", more than you need to.


Here are a few reasons saying "NO" will benefit you and your child

  1. Start immediately. Should your little one become so used to you saying "YES" all the time, you will find that as he gets older he will have a tough time accepting a "NO" from you.
  2. Stand firm. Children are creatures of habit. If you say "YES" to something just because you didn't want to make them unhappy, the next time you decide to say "NO" could end up in a tantrum flare up!
  3. It's good discipline. Remember, saying "NO" is also part of disciplining. A child that grows up with good discipline will find a sense of justice and security in this world.
  4. It's rewarding. And the ultimate reward for you is, your child will appreciate things more when you say "YES"!
  5. Very importantly, it will also teach your child that it's okay to say "NO" to strangers or negative elements.


As parents, we all want the best for our little one, both physically and mentally. And while we always give him the best nutrition for him to grow up, we need to give him the best guidance for him to be the best.


A babysitter in your home

Pros

  • Relatively flexible hours.
  • You choose the person.

Cons

  • High cost.
  • Your child is on his own.
  • You are highly dependent on one person (what happens if your babysitter is ill?).
  • Difficult to find.


A babysitter in her own home

Pros

  • You are entrusting your child with a qualified person.
  • You choose the person.

Cons

  • Difficult to find.
  • You are highly dependent on one person (what happens if your babysitter is ill?).


Nursery

Pros

  • Your child will learn to mix with other children starting at a young age.
  • Your child is cared for by professionals.
  • Reasonable cost.

Cons

  • Difficult to secure a place.
  • Nurseries send children home when they are ill.
  • Less flexible hours.

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